Being one that's hardly used sex toys or paraphenalia in the past, I've wholeheartedly embraced this strange and wonderful world. Partially because the people in charge of my credit decided that i could have it again. And the first thing I did was buy a buttload of sex toys from Toys in Babeland.
I bought some wonderful shit.. a mini-rocket, a fox clit tickler, a 8" vibe. Also: some liquid silk (hands-down, the best lube) and a kamasutra "weekender kit".
This is compiled of a teeny feather duster that you use with this beautiful, gentle 'honey dust', that tastes wonderfully, and mint jelly (do NOT use it on porkchops), and clove bathing stuff, and mint bathing gel, and the 'oil of love'- hilarious - but works. The men dig it. Gets the nethers all tingly
For men, apparently this stuff is like a suspended state. It can be supergood for a while, but this stuff also gets my man all super-sensitive. It has to be used properly.
Anyway, to my failsafe method. This is what should go down. (Of course, use lube before any of the following happens)
After lubing:
Make a fist at the base of the penis. Start low, short movements. Work higher. The fist's focus is on stroking the cock low, and also, focus on the area in the front...from the balls to 1/2 way up the cock.
It's a matter of stroking your tongue along the shaft while you have your fist in a semi-circle on the cock.. so you can travel the distance from the balls to the cock, and having a decent amount of pressure on the cock at the same time.
(Men can be as sensitive as women when it comes to that oral stuff, but women command a lot more. I happen to be superlucky in my orgasm ability.)
Anyway, you've got an initial rhythym going (according to above) and then, depending on response, you tighten your grip. You listen to what he wants, and you rock it. You're constantly running the tongue up and down the outside of the shaft... and doing a tight semi-circle with your index and thumb. This could go on for 15-20 minutes. but if you've done it successfully, you could rock your man a superpowerful orgasm.